Wednesday, January 25, 2012

"A body pillow in your bed is no consolation..."

I ran across this paragraph today and couldn't help but share it...I can't tell you how many times someone has said to me "you knew what you were getting into when you married him" or "that's why I didn't marry someone in the military" or better yet, "don't you get free housing and healthcare" far from the truth!  I often find myself getting defensive when people act as if they have a clue what life in the military is like.  On the other hand, I feel like these same people who have their "soap box" opinions about my "choices" are just ungrateful...most of them lack appreciation for their spouse, take simple moments with family for granted, and are just plain ignorant to the sacrifices being made so that they can speak their mind.
While attending a spouse meeting at my husbands command, the CO said to us wives, Thank you for doing the hardest job in the Navy, with out you keeping life together on the home front, we would not be able to focus on our missions at hand!  (I could have hugged him for showing us some recognition)
I did not write this paragraph below but I think it says a lot of things that many of us military spouses keep to ourselves....

This is for the young women that are waking up at 6 a.m. every morning with small precious children that they have been left alone to care for. This is for the pregnant Military wife wondering if her husband will make it home in time to watch their miracle happen. This is for the childless Military wife, living in a town or on a base alone where she is a complete stranger to her surroundings. This is for the women that feel like a third leg when they go out with their friends and their husbands. This is for the Military wife that cancelled all her plans to wait by the phone, and even though the phone broke up and cut off every time you spoke to him you waited anyway. This is a pledge to the women that cry themselves to sleep in an empty bed. This is to recognize the woman that felt like she was dying inside when he said he had to go, but smiled for him anyway. This is for those of you that are faithfully in that long line at the post office once a month handling 2 large boxes and 2 small children like a pro. This is for that woman that decided to remodel the house to pass time, and then realized that she had no idea what she was doing and sighed and wished she had a little help. This is for all the lonely nights, all the one-person dinners, and all of the wondering thoughts because you haven't heard from him in days. A toast to you for falling apart, and putting yourselves back together. Because a pay check isn't enough, a body pillow in your bed is no consolation, and a web cam can never compare. This is for all of you no matter how easy or hard this was for you. Our military men are brave, they are heroes, but so are we. So the next time someone tells you that they would never marry a Military guy, don't bother explaining to them that you can't control who you fall in love with. Just think of this and nod your head, know that you are the stronger woman. Hold your heads up high, hang that flag in your front yard, stick 100 magnets on your car, and then give yourself a pat on the back. Be proud to be the woman that you are, be proud to be a MILITARY WIFE. ♥

Some of my fellow Navy wives!!!

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